About how other people view your before and after pictures when you have dealt with a massive weight loss.
To me, it's obvious what I should and shouldn't say to someone who wants to flaunt their before and after images - they wanna show their progress, feel a bit good about themselves for the accomplishments and share their journey to the group they're in or on their social medias.
I completely understand, I myself do the exact same thing.
For I find it fun to journal my progress and my life and at the same time inspire others to be a better version of themselves by perhaps taking inspiration from my images.
Most people know that with a fast and dramatic weight loss extra skin is a huge deal. It's a real thing people!
But what strikes like a needle in my heart is when there's those who insist on telling me or someone else on social media - that just cus they don't see the excess skin, it doesn't exist...
Since when did you become an expert on MY post-op body? When did you have a look at every angle of my skin?
It's absolutely absurd is what it is.
Do not sit there and tell me what I have and don't have on MY BODY.
Just cus you can't see it doesn't mean it's not there love.
I always want to represent myself as the best version I possibly can, and obviously, that's gonna reflect on the images I choose to post on social media.
Unless I have intentions of showing the actual graphic truth that comes with a massive weight loss.
Which I certainly don't feel like I want to every time I feel like taking a selfie on, for example, Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter or even Facebook.
I am so tired of halfway being afraid to post a before and after image, cus I KNOW there's gonna be at least one comment that will say "you don't look like you have excess skin", or one saying "you're perfect, you don't need skin removal".
And some people have literally gotten into arguments with me that I certainly don't have excess skin!
HOW? How do you know that?
I have saggy breasts.
I have a saggy stomach.
I have saggy arms.
I have saggy thighs.
So, on behalf of all of us with excess skin after a massive weight loss:
Please stop telling me what I am and what I am not.
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Then: 120 kg (264.55 lbs) Now: 68.8 kg (151.67 lbs) |